Honoring your body and mind is one way to keep life from becoming complicated and more stressful than it has to be. Yes, the pressure is great, and suggestions to make light of God’s commandments to turn away from inappropriate images or wait until marriage for sexual intimacy comes from every angle—from friends, music, social media—you name it. Let’s just be honest, no one said it is easy to resist the flesh—but it is possible, by the grace of God. You may not realize it, but your “No” to sin is just as important as your “Yes” to God for a truly successful and prosperous future. Here are three frequently asked questions and answers to help you in your purity journey.
Q1: It seems like “everybody’s doing it” and having fun—it can’t possibly be that bad. What good is purity in the long run?
A1: First know this: It is the enemy’s lie that everyone is engaging in inappropriate behavior.
There are many scholars within and without your school who have chosen to take a stand for Christ instead of risks they will one day regret. The Bible makes very clear that you were created uniquely and for His divine purpose.
I Peter 2:9:
But you are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light; (NKJV)
Hear me clearly: Your future is too important to throw away for temporary feelings. You only get one shot at this life. Keep it simple by refocusing on your goals, prioritizing your health, and talking to God and a trusted adult or real friend who will keep you accountable when you feel the pull to give in to sin. It’s just not worth it. Now, notice I did not say “God or…an adult or friend”. I said “God and…”, because He is ultimately the One who will give you the strength to overcome. And trust me, you will be glad you did.
Q2: I have already made many wrong choices with my body and mind. Does God still want and love me?
A2: God never stopped (nor will He ever stop) loving you!
Romans 5:8:
But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
You are God’s treasure created in His image. He made a way for us to get back in right standing with Him by confessing our sin to Him in prayer. When we cover our sin, we will not prosper—it only gets worse. But it we confess and forsake (turn away from) it, we will have mercy (Prov. 28:13).
I John 2:1
My little children, these things I write to you, so that you may not sin. And if anyone sins, we have an Advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous.
The beauty of being in a relationship with Jesus Christ is we have Someone who not only will forgive us, but He will also represent us before God the Father and help us overcome temptation and defeat. That is how much He loves us!
Q3: It is hard, but I am really trying to live as God wants me to live. What can I do to daily live in purity?
A3:
It is important to know it is only possible to be pure through Jesus Christ. You must first put your full trust in Him as your Savior by believing in and acknowledging His death, burial, and resurrection (Rom. 10:9-10). There are also practical ways we can have daily victory over the flesh, the world, and the devil:
- Guard your heart (Prov. 4:23). Be mindful of what you consume on media—it always shows you the “fun”, but rarely shows you the consequences of poor choices (like the mental impact of sin or sexually transmitted infections). It is loaded with suggestions to engage in impure activities. Reducing and eliminating exposure to inappropriate content will help you maintain your purity.
- Treasure your soul (Matt. 16:26). Your soul is the seat of your will, intellect, and emotions—the place you make decisions. You only get one soul and it is eternal.
When you are tempted, take a step back and ask:
- Is this worth my health and reputation?
- Does this put my future in danger?
- Is this safe?
- Would God be pleased?
- Would my parents approve?
Taking a few minutes to engage in responsible decision making could save your life!
- Nourish your mind (Phil. 4:8). If you let it, stress and peer pressure can overwhelm you. Adopt healthy ways to cope with stress. Examples of stress relieving practices are prayer, exercise, journaling, meditating on God’s Word, creating, getting enough sleep, drinking enough water, reading, and hanging out with friends and family who will encourage you to live a healthy, happy, and holy life.
- Dedicating your body to God (I Cor. 6:15-20). When you choose to be a follower of Jesus Christ, your life and body should be dedicated to doing His Work and glorifying Him. Because He gave His body to us by dying on the cross and rising again, we are to keep ourselves pure for Him by following His example. Keeping the body pure is having boundaries about what and how you are handled. Refuse to use substances that harm the body and mind and reject inappropriate touching and premarital sexual activity.
This sends a message that you are to be respected because you first respect yourself.
Purity is important to God, so it should be important to you. The condition of your heart, soul, mind, and body put you in a position to receive His peace and the absolute best of life. This is what He says to you:
Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.